Saving Men in a Hyper Sexualized Culture, Part 2

I hope you had a great weekend.  Last post I sent out the intro to the training.  This post I am sending out the video that trains people how to do the 30 day detox process.  We must learn how to make no provision for our flesh so we can clothe ourselves in the Lord Jesus.


Saving Men in a Hyper Sexualized Culture

Thanks for praying for the online conference.  You can watch the video below.  It was the intro session to the conference. Over the next several days I will be posting the individual sessions.  Praise God for the freedom He gives us in Christ!

Prayer for Saving Men in a Hyper Sexualized Culture


Saving Men In a Hyper Sexualized Culture Online Conference is tomorrow at either 10am or 7pm.

Matthew 6 talks about fasting in secret.  I think that means we don’t parade around arrogantly while we are fasting so others think that is what we are doing.  I don’t think that means you can’t tell believers you are fasting and praying for something specific.

With that said, I’ll be praying and fasting for this event tomorrow.  I am asking if you would consider doing the same.  Sexual sin is killing all kinds of people in our culture, but I believe it starts with the men.  We have no shot of destroying the idol of sexual sin in the hearts of men unless God intervenes.  Would you beg him through a time of fasting and prayer tomorrow for him to intervene?

Thank you for considering this!  To God be the glory! May the hearts of men be set free through the power of the Gospel! Tomorrow may not set guys completely free, but the road to freedom can start then. Pray to this end!

To register for this event, go to

Promo video:

Reminder: Saving Men in a Hyper Sexualized Culture

I am taking a break from our temptation tracker blog posts to remind you of an online conference on 10/27.  Please use all forms of social media to promote this to those in your sphere of influence.  Sexual Sin is destroying our culture and the church in our culture.  It is negatively influencing men, women, students and children, but I believe it starts with men.  Read the following and promote the heck out of it!  Thanks!

Who: Church Leaders looking to help those who may be struggling and for men and women struggling with the addiction to pornography
An online conference designed to help start the journey of freedom from sexual sin
Online. You can watch it in your own home or at church, by yourself or with a group of others that need to hear this too
October 27th starting at 10 AM and at 7PM
Pornography is an issue that many people in the church struggle with. We want to come along side you to help and support you as your strive to break the cycle of sin and pursue a life of holiness.
 Click on on October 27th and there will be a link to go to for the conference

Warning Mature Content:

This content deals with the topic of pornography therefore, we want to advise that an adult view this content before allowing students to participate.

Men are being destroyed by sexual images and pornography. This is not just an issue in the culture but inside church’s as well. What can churches do to help men or women caught in or looking to stay free from this destructive industry? Learn how in this FREE online conference on October 27th starting at 10 AM and 7PM. (If you are unable to tune in for either time, the content will be available on online training immediately following the conference)

Sexual sin grieves the heart of God but we can have confidence that Christ’s blood covers it. We want this conference to help men realize their hope and freedom in Christ.

Temptation Tracker, BLAST-Part 3

Here is my latest installment of the temptation tracker blog posts.  This will be my last entry for the next 3 or 4 weeks.  My speaking schedule is intense during that time.  Please be in prayer for that.  I will continue to ask you to post the link to this blog to your facebook or twitter, etc, and you can also post this link to a sermon I did about the temptation tracker specifically:

Temptation Tracker Sermon

Where did this come from?

Temptation Tracker (created by Doug Hutchins with

To see more on this on my site, click on this link: TempationTrackerPage

Reminders: We must identify the idolatry issue of our heart, and the temptation tracker can help us determine the root issue behind our idolatry struggle. One of the things the temptation tracker helps us identify is what emotionally triggers us to bow down to other idols.  Every time a person is tempted to bow down to a false idol, they need to account for what they were feeling emotionally during that temptation.  It looks like this-

Feeling: how were you feeling when temptation hit (Remember: BLAST)

  • Bored
  • Lonely
  • Afraid
  • Angry
  • Stressed
  • Sad
  • Shame
  • Tired

Today let’s look at L, the issue of feeling lonely.

I really understand loneliness.  I wish I didn’t, but I really do understand it because I have experienced it a great deal in my life.  There are a variety of reasons why I have battled feeling lonely, but the bottom line is I truly know what this feels like.

However, me feeling lonely is not as big of a deal as knowing that Jesus felt this way.  If you read Matthew 26, you will find Jesus in the garden praying right before He is to die on the cross.  While praying, He asks His disciples to pray with Him.  They continue to fall asleep on Him.  As He is praying, it seems He is in intense distress, and His closest friends are not with Him.  Wow!

His loneliness continues in Matthew 27 on the cross.  As He bears the weight of mankind’s sin on His back, God the Father turns His back on Jesus.  Christ cries out, “Why have you forsaken me?”.

It is encouraging to know that Jesus Christ struggled just like you and I struggle.  Hebrews 4 tells us that we have a Great High Priest who understands our weakness.  How does He understand?  He experienced being lonely.

Genesis 2 tells us that it is not good to be alone.  This is before the fall.  Perfect garden with perfect man with perfect God, and there is loneliness.  God said being alone is not good.  Wow!

Loneliness is not a sin, but God does not want me to stay in a place of loneliness.  What do I need to do when I am lonely?  If I am not careful, feeling lonely will lead me to bowing down to idolatry.

Here are some practical ideas I have to combat loneliness:

  1. Remember that Jesus wants relationship with me.  My sin keeps me from relationship with God, but God made a way through Jesus for me to have a relationship with Him.  It is possible you are lonely because you don’t have a relationship with Jesus.  You need to come to faith in God.  How?  Surrender yourself to Him by repenting of your sin and receiving the free gift of Jesus.
  2. Remember Jesus wants to dine with me.  Revelation 3:20 communicates to me that Jesus Christ wants to have an intimate relationship with me and spend time with me.  When I am lonely, I am usually resistant to spending that time with Jesus.  I must remember that He wants that intimacy with Him and spending time with Him helps me in my loneliness.
  3. Surround myself with people who point me to Jesus.  In Mark 2, there is a paralyzed man who can’t get to Jesus.  He had four friends who literally carried him to Jesus.  I need friends in my life who will point me to Christ.  Many times when I feel lonely, I don’t want to reach out to people that are connected to me.  One of the greatest things I can do is to reach out to those one or two people in my life who will remind me to take my loneliness to Jesus.
  4. Sometimes there will be times when I don’t want to reach out to Jesus or my closest friends.  These are usually really dark times.  I have found one Psalm to really help me during that time.  That Psalm is Psalm 88.  I think it is the loneliest Psalm in the Bible.  There is really no resolution to it either.  I am glad that chapter is in Scripture because it helps me to know I can talk to God that way when I feel super lonely.

All of these above ideas have helped me in my loneliness, but I want to specifically focus on #4.  One of the loneliest times in my life was when my son, Caleb Micah, was born stillborn.  It was brutally hard.  His death came right after our church plant had collapsed.  I was in a really dark place.

I stumbled on Psalm 88.  One night in particular I was having a really tough time, and I went outside to work in my yard to take my mind off of how I felt.  I started trimming hedges.  The next thing I knew I had destroyed those hedges.  I decided to just take them out of the flower beds.  There were 6 of them.  I used a tool to cut the limbs of the hedges down to where all that was left were 6 stumps.

At this point I am really crying out to God about how I feel and how lonely I am and how my heart is not in a good place.  I start using a shovel to pull the stumps out by the roots.  I finally get to my last stump.  As I am pulling on the last couple of roots, I trip and fall.  On the ground, I just look up to heaven and cry.  I felt so lonely, but somehow in that moment I knew God was with me.

I look back on that night as a turning point for me.  Jesus met me in my loneliness as I was destroying those shrubs.  It would have been much easier for me to run to anything idolatrous there (examples: distract myself with going back to work, go watch porn, go watch sports, play a bunch of video games, eat a bunch, etc.)

I am so thankful to the Lord that He gave me some shrubs to destroy so I could cry out to Him in my place of deep loneliness.  That was my Psalm 88 moment.  I took my loneliness to Christ, and I was finally able to see that He was with me.

Where are you today?  Wherever you are, don’t take your loneliness to idolatry.  Take it to the feet of Jesus!