Sexual Sin Recovery, Sex is Sacred! (Part 5)

Once again I will continue my blog posts looking at my Sexual Sin Recovery and Sex is Sacred pages from my site.  The principles from these pages on my site don’t just apply to the sexual arena. They apply to all aspects of life.  Life is sacred and is all about worshiping and glorifying Jesus!  There is freedom from idolatry no matter what that idolatry is, and that freedom comes only from the Messiah, Jesus Christ!

Sexual Sin Recovery

Reminder: the road to freedom is not an easy one. It can take close to a year or even longer. In reality the road to freedom is a lifelong journey.

In our recent posts, we have focused on confession (confession to God and others) and finding both a mentor and sponsor to walk with you on the journey.  We have also recommended great books to read.  We have talked about how to do a sexual sin inventory, and we have talked about the importance of starving the flesh with a 30 day media fast.  In this post we will focus on the 30 minute escape plan.

30 Minute Escape Plan –

I don’t necessarily understand this, but I am told the primary chemical releases in the brain related to pornography are adrenaline and dopamine.  I am also told that when those chemicals start firing, then it can feel very hard to resist temptation.  It is not just the forces of darkness attacking.  It is not just what culture tempts us with.  It is not just what our flesh desires.  If we have trained ourselves to respond to sexual sin, then literally we have a physiological problem when we are sexually triggered.  The forces of darkness, culture and our flesh are hard to fight.  Retraining our brain how to respond is without a doubt as hard, if not harder.  Based upon what I have been told by guys smarter than me, it takes about 20 to 30 minutes to calm those levels of dopamine and adrenaline down.

How do we do this consistently?

The Bible offers us a road map on how to do this.

  1. Romans 12:2 and 1 Corinthians 10:13 – I am not conformed to the world, but I allow myself to be transformed by renewing my mind.  I realize that my temptation is not unique to me, and God has provided a way of escape.  I must choose to take it and let Him transform me and renew my mind.
  2. Example of Joseph-I can renew my mind by following the example of Joseph in Genesis 39.  Joseph literally fled.  He ran away from sexual temptation.  I can renew my mind, I can retrain my brain how to respond to temptation if I will do what Joseph did.  I must leave!  I must flee!  If I have 30 minutes to flee, then I get out of there for 30 minutes.  If I have 5 minutes, I take 5 minutes.  If I have 30 seconds, then I take 30 seconds.  The bottom line is that I leave.  I must flee.
  3. When I leave I contact my mentor of sponsor (see more on this in previous posts) and let them know I am tempted and that I am fleeing.  This helps us live in the light with our struggle.  This helps us fight with the body of Christ and not fight on our own.
  4. This is going to sound crazy, but when you leave/flee, you must try to exercise (preferably walking or jogging).  Why?  Again, I am told by those who know way more than me about this stuff that when I walk or jog my right brain and left brain connect with one another.  What I cognitively know to be true in my left brain, I can begin to experience in my right brain.  Example: I know God loves me because of the cross of Christ, but I am not experiencing that.  I feel like escaping into something that will make me feel better, but it really will not satisfy.  Only God will satisfy.  I go on this walk or jog and my left brain and right brain start communicating.  It is possible that what I know to be true about God I begin to experience as I walk or jog.
  5. Which leads me to this last point.  I can’t just leave/flee.  I can’t just contact my mentor or sponsor.  I can’t just exercise.  When I start walking or jogging, I must choose to connect with Jesus.  I can walk and pray.  I can jog and listen to the Word or worship music.  The bottom line is that I must try to connect with Jesus.  Connection may just be normal conversation.  It could be crying out to God from places of anger and sadness.  Regardless, when I flee temptation to bond with sexual sin, I must then bond with the only one who can really satisfy, Jesus Christ! (Jeremiah 2:13 and John 6:35)

We can rewire our brain.  We can fight the forces of darkness.  We can fight the culture.  We can fight our flesh.  We must choose to flee and run to Jesus EVERY TIME we are tempted!

Let us purpose in our heart to do this!!!

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