Sexual Sin Recovery, Sex is Sacred! (Part 2)

I want to continue my blog posts looking at my Sexual Sin Recovery and Sex is Sacred pages from my site.  Again, as you read the information, you will see that the principles apply beyond the sexual arena.  They apply to life in general.  Life is sacred and is about worshiping Jesus!  There is freedom from bondage no matter what that bondage is, and that freedom comes only from Christ.  With that said, let’s continue looking at Sexual Sin Recovery.

Sexual Sin Recovery

Reminder: the road to freedom is not an easy one. It can take close to a year or even longer. In reality the road to freedom is a lifelong journey.

In our last post we focused on confession (confession to God and others).  In this post we will focus on the following:

  • Find a mentor to meet with who understands how to walk in freedom from sexual sin.  It is ideal if you have someone further along the journey walking with you and leading you.  Meet weekly if possible.
  • Sponsor – Contact this person daily to check in so they can hold you accountable.

It is extremely important to find someone to help you on the journey of life who has been where you have been.  This is true in all of life, as well as sexual sin recovery.  How do you find this kind of mentor?  Ask people in your life if they can help.  Ask people in your life if they know someone who can help.  As you look for a mentor, make sure it is someone of the same sex, and meet with them on a consistent basis.

Let’s say you can’t find a mentor.  I would encourage you to pray and fast and request of the Lord to find you a mentor.  Another option is to let certain authors you read mentor you through recovery. (Michael Cusick-Surfing for God, Joe McIlhaney-Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex is Affecting Our Children and Girls Uncovered: New Research on What America’s Sexual Culture Does to Young Women, Tim Keller-Counterfeit Gods, Apostle Paul-Romans 1-8, Ephesians 1-3, Colossians 1-2).

Ultimately the greatest mentor you can have is the Holy Spirit.  If you have surrendered your life to Christ, then the Holy Spirit lives inside your life, and He wants to empower you and walk with you step for step (Ephesians 5:18, Galatians 5:16).  If you will constantly run away from sexual temptation and run to the Holy Spirit, He will lead you on your journey of recovery.

It is also great to find someone who can sponsor you as you go through recovery.  Again, this needs to be someone of the same sex.  Your sponsor cannot be your boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee, or spouse.  You contact this person every day (phone call, email, text).  What do you tell them?  You are honest with them.  You tell them you ran away from sexual sin that day or you gave in.  This person’s commitment to you is to pray for you on your journey of recovery.  Contact them daily for at least 30 days.  This helps you get in the habit of living in the light with your struggle!  It is no longer a secret.

One of the things you will see in this portion of the recovery journey is the commitment required.  It is hard to contact someone every day.  It is hard to find a mentor.  It is hard to not get discouraged during the search to find a mentor.  Question: How committed are you to this sin not being in your life?

For me personally, it was very humbling to contact someone daily.  It was very discouraging in my quest to find a mentor.  However, I was persistent.  I did not want this sin in my life any more, and God in His grace empowered me to contact my sponsor.  God in His grace helped me find 2 men who could help me on my journey.

Final thoughts: Are you willing to do whatever is necessary to pursue freedom?  Are you willing to be as persistent as necessary?  Are you willing to be humbled?  I can speak from personal experience.  It is absolutely worth it, and Jesus is absolutely worthy of it!  Go pursue freedom in Christ and ask God to direct you to people who can help you on the journey!

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